Driving is often seen as a symbol of independence and freedom. It allows us to travel at our convenience, maintain social connections, and do daily tasks with ease. However, as we age, the ability to drive safely can become more challenging. It is a difficult transition to accept when the time comes to give up the keys. This often stems from a person not wanting to recognize that their physical abilities are changing. In addition, many people fear that they will become a burden to others or that their social connections will shrink without the ability to drive.
While it can be emotionally challenging, there are several important reasons why it may become necessary to give up driving:
- Declining Physical and Cognitive Abilities: As we age, our reflexes, vision, and cognitive functions may deteriorate, making it unsafe for us to operate a vehicle.
- Medications and Health Conditions: Certain medications or health conditions can impair driving abilities or increase the risk of accidents.
- Safety Concerns: For the well-being of both the driver and others on the road, it is crucial to recognize when driving skills have declined to a point where it poses a safety risk.
So how do you begin to address these challenges? First and foremost, engage in open and honest discussions with those around you about your concerns and limitations. Share your thoughts and fears, and work together to find alternative transportation solutions.
Take the time to explore public transportation options. Here in Door County, we have a great public transportation system, Door2Door Rides. Service schedules and costs are based on the zone you are traveling to and from. Based on demand, some areas of Door County are provided service Monday through Sunday and some are provided service Monday through Friday. Even better is Door-Tran, a volunteer transportation program that can provide rides for those who need transportation not available through Door2Door such as after-hours rides or outside of the county. They also have a special program just for veterans to get them to and from the VA and medical clinics for veterans.
If you have a question about what transportation services are right for your particular situation, the best place to start is the Aging and Disability Resource Center. One call can get you connected with one of their Information & Assistance Specialists who can explore possibilities that meet your financial and life needs.
If someone you care about is reluctant to give up driving, here are some suggestions to approach it with dignity and thoughtfulness:
- Encourage open and honest conversations about the concerns and fears associated with giving up driving. Listen attentively to the person’s perspective and recognize their emotional attachment to driving. By understanding their concerns, you can work together to find practical solutions and alternatives.
- Offer information about the potential risks and consequences of continuing to drive when one’s abilities are compromised. Share statistics and stories that highlight the importance of safety for themselves and others on the road. Presenting factual evidence can help a person make more informed decisions.
- Explore and present various transportation alternatives that can address the person’s specific needs and concerns. Learn more about local transportation options and highlight the convenience, affordability, and accessibility of these alternatives.
- Propose the idea of trial runs using alternative transportation methods, allowing them to experience the benefits and feasibility of different options without completely giving up their driving privileges immediately. Offer to go with them on these trial runs to provide support.
Sometimes, the input of an impartial third party can help alleviate reluctance. Make an appointment with a person’s physician to assess any physical or cognitive impairments that may affect driving. This evaluation can provide clarity and guidance. Also consider engaging a driving instructor whose expertise and insights can provide an objective assessment of driving abilities and the potential risks involved.
It is important to emphasize the potential positive aspects of giving up driving, such as reduced stress, freedom from the responsibilities of vehicle maintenance, and the opportunity to engage in new activities or hobbies that they may have previously been unable to pursue. Highlight the potential for increased social interaction and connections through alternative transportation methods.
Losing the ability to drive as we age can be emotionally challenging, but it is a necessary step to ensure the safety of ourselves and others. By openly discussing concerns, exploring alternative transportation options, and seeking support, it is possible to maintain independence and an active lifestyle. Remember, letting go of driving does not mean letting go of your quality of life; it simply means adapting to new ways of getting around and connecting with the world.