by Cynthia Germain

A family friend had recognized some months back that he and his wife could eventually no longer take care of their home and property as they once did. Rather than wait until the situation became urgent, he took the proactive step of finding a place with a continuum of care—one that offers independent apartments, assisted living, and advanced care. The community he chose is still under construction and is expected to be completed later this year. While he knows this is the right decision for their future, the transition is not easy. After decades in their Door County home, the move brings both emotional weight and logistical challenges. Even the neighbors, who have been a part of their lives for so long, are finding it hard to adjust to the idea of them leaving.

There is no doubt that aging brings change, and one of the most significant transitions an older adult may face is moving from their long-time home to a place where they can receive more help and support. This decision is deeply personal and often complex. Preparing for this transition can make the process smoother and less stressful for everyone involved. Here’s some thoughts on how to navigate it with some ease.

How Does It Feel –

Recognizing your feelings is an important first step. It’s natural to experience a mix of emotions—grief, anxiety, relief, or even excitement. This transition marks a significant life change, and acknowledging those emotions can make the process easier. Talking with family members, close friends, or even a trusted health practitioner can help process these feelings and provide reassurance along the way.

Taking an active role in the decision-making process can help ease the transition. Researching and choosing your next home can give you a sense of control, making the move feel like a step toward a new opportunity rather than a loss. Understanding what each type of living arrangement offers allows you to find the best fit for your needs and preferences. It’s important to visit potential communities before making a decision, spending time in the different areas, attending events, and talking to current residents can provide insight into daily life and make it easier to picture yourself living there.

What to Bring –

Sorting through a lifetime of belongings can feel overwhelming, so take it one step at a time. Start by decluttering and prioritizing what’s most important to bring along, keeping meaningful items that will make your new place feel familiar and comfortable. Bring cherished items such as photographs, favorite furniture pieces, or other personal touches to make it feel like home.

Moving can be physically demanding, all the sorting, packing and pushing/pulling, so don’t hesitate to ask for help. Whether it’s family, friends, or professional movers specializing in older adult transitions, having good support makes the process smoother and less stressful.

Who Can Help –

Assessing your needs is a crucial step in planning a move. Take time to understand what level of assistance is required—whether it’s help with daily tasks, medical care, or simply a maintenance-free lifestyle—will help determine the best housing option. Writing down your normal activities as well as preferences in your living environment and reviewing them with professionals at the potential new homes can be helpful.

Considering financial factors early on can prevent surprises. Research the costs of different living arrangements and explore financial options such as long-term care insurance, veteran benefits, or state/federal programs. Don’t be shy about talking with a financial planner, an Elder Benefit Specialist at the Aging and Disability Resource Center or other trusted community professionals such as Money Management Counselors. Having a clear financial plan in place can give peace of mind.

Coordinating services ahead of time can make the transition much easier. Work with a transition specialist or trusted family member or friend to ensure that all utilities, mail, and personal services are smoothly transferred to your new residence. Keeping all important documents, contacts, and moving details organized in one place will also help avoid some stress as the day gets close.

When it happens –

Engaging with the community is one of the best ways to adjust to a new living situation. Participate in activities, introduce yourself to neighbors, and explore new hobbies to stay socially and mentally active. It’s equally important to keep familiar routines that can provide comfort and stability. Whether it’s a morning coffee ritual, a favorite television program, or daily walks, maintaining these habits helps create a sense of normalcy in a new environment.

Asking for help when needed is a sign of strength, not weakness. Moving and adjusting to a new living arrangement is a significant life change, and it’s okay to seek out support. Talk to staff, connect with family, and reach out to new friends when you need assistance or just to bend an ear.

Moving from a home to a supportive living environment is a major change, but with thoughtful planning and an open mind, it can lead to an exciting and satisfying new chapter. The key is to prepare, stay engaged, and focus on the positives that come with having the right level of support and care.